In high school and not interested in dating
Maybe because I have friends that are so awesome that I've never felt like a third wheel, but also because I don't mind taking my time.Everything doesn't have to happen for me in the next five years, or even the next fifteen. A lesson I've learned in the murky field of dating in my twenties: if you're not attracted to someone on the first date, you are probably not going to change your mind. For both of your sakes, just drop it before it gets messy.There is this weird assumption that people who don't date have been "burned" before in relationships, and while that may be true for some people, it isn't true for all of us non-daters. If anything, that's one more reason not to throw myself into the dating pool: I want to make sure whoever I do eventually date, should I decide to, is as nice as people I've dated in the past.And besides, for those non-daters who have been burned, I'm pretty sure the last thing they want is to share it with everyone who asks.I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.It seemed stupid to limit ourselves when we were so young.It was a sign, to me, that maybe I wanted to give myself a little more time to grow up before putting myself in that position again.So yeah, even though every now and then I'll dip a toe into the dating pool, I'm not a fan of forcing things.
It just happens that I'm not dating, and I'm not especially going out of my way to change that.
But I am also confident in my ability to love and be loved, and I don't feel the need to prove it by rushing into a relationship I'm not sure about.
These three years I spent single have changed me so much already.
Only now, when I sit down to count it out, so I realize that I've been single for three years – because I've never once questioned myself about it.
I've had bigger priorities, and in retrospect, looking back at all the weird places my life has taken me in the past few years, I can't imagine the strain of trying to keep something up with someone without limiting my options.
Search for in high school and not interested in dating:
If I happen to meet someone there, then it will be a lucky coincidence, not because I sat through the world's most boring book club to make eyes at someone. My life isn't going to be somehow less worthwhile if I don't find one of them. A guy I went on a date once in high school called me the "Ice Bitch" when I declined to kiss him on the first date (he kissed me anyway, so let me take this opportunity to say eight years after the fact: you're a tool, sir).