Dating and online dating
My maternal grandparents met through mutual friends at a summer pool party in the suburbs of Detroit shortly after World War II.
Thirty years later, their oldest daughter met my dad in Washington, D.
Once upon a time, wealthy families considered matrimonies akin to mergers; they were coldhearted business opportunities to expand a family’s financial power.
Even in the late 19th century, marriage was more practicality than rom-com, whereas today’s daters are looking for nothing less than a human Swiss Army knife of self-actualization.
A 2012 paper co-written by Rosenfeld found that the share of straight couples who met online rose from about zero percent in the mid-1990s to about 20 percent in 2009.
For gay couples, the figure soared to nearly 70 percent.
We seek “spiritual, intellectual, social, as well as sexual soul mates,” the sociologist Jessica Carbino told podcast.
She said she regarded this self-imposed ambition as “absolutely unreasonable.”If the journey toward coupling is more formidable than it used to be, it’s also more lonesome.
“I think I got about 100 media requests over the weekend,” he told me ruefully on the phone when I called him on Monday.In almost any other period, this project would have been an excruciating bore.That’s because for centuries, most couples met the same way: They relied on their families and friends to set them up.As the co-authors write in their conclusion, “Internet dating has displaced friends and family [as] key intermediaries.” We used to rely on intimates to screen our future partners.Now that’s work we have to do ourselves, getting by with a little help from our robots.